I was trained as an international family mediator who can work in Russia under the Convention on the Civil Aspects of International Child Abduction (The Hague, 1980). All the cases I have had the chance to work on involved business or a shared venture, or family relationships (including between siblings, between partners in a couple, and between children and parents).
I have worked with couples and small teams (from 3 to 10 people).
Depending on the complexity of the case, I can work solo or together with a co-mediator.
Also, I have not yet concluded a single mediation agreement as a mediator.
So, I have told you what I haven’t done. What have I done, then?
I am flexible.
I am assertive. I stop a party if I sense they are doing something unhelpful for others or for themselves. I can discuss risks, and I can confront you if needed.
I know how to creatively integrate everything I have learned. For instance, I draw on narrative practice and SFBT (solution-focused brief therapy) when I work as a mediator. This means I try to focus on what people say and how they say it, and on what they would like as the best resolution of the conflict. I also pay attention to their language. And I always treat people as the main experts on, and managers of, their own lives.
I can see the whole picture: keep in mind the interests of each party and, at the same time, the shared, jointly formulated wish about how to resolve the situation.
I am compassionate. For 8 years now I have been learning to listen to people and truly hear them. Of course, I will keep learning for as long as I do this work: you can’t stop.
I can admit my mistakes. I can acknowledge difficulties or the failure of a mediation session, and do so openly, without shame or anger.
I take care of the process
I often choose not to work alone, which is why I co-mediate with two colleagues. In my view, it works better that way when it comes to a group of people who need to negotiate. In some cases I would also co-mediate for a couple.
I always work with breaks. That is how I function best. And, as I have noticed, it is also good for the process as a whole.
Mediators who work with me
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Sergey Tyulkanov
Professional mediator and trainer
I have been working as a mediator and trainer for 8 years, running training groups on negotiation and conflict resolution. Since 2014 I have specialized in international family mediation in disputes over children. Since 2018 I have been counseling as an individual narrative practitioner, and also in a special group format: working in a reflecting team.
I have also been practicing law for 10 years, specializing in commercial litigation.
My training:
2009 – Faculty of Law, International Institute of Economics, Law and Management at Nizhny Novgorod State University of Architecture and Civil Engineering (NNGASU), Nizhny Novgorod.
2011 – professional retraining program “Mediator Training Program”, ANO “Center for Mediation and Law” (Moscow).
2017 – professional retraining program “Psychological Counseling and Personality Psychodiagnostics”, National Research University Higher School of Economics.
2017 – present – studying in a 3-year psychodrama training program at the Institute of Psychodrama, Coaching and Role Training.
In 2018, completed a narrative approach workshop at the “Future Now” Charitable Foundation, and also trained in reflecting team work.
Born in 1986.
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Tatiana Semikova
Professional mediator, mediator trainer, lawyer
In 2011 she completed the “Mediation. Basic Course” program at ANO “Center for Mediation and Law”, and in 2012 the “Mediation. Course for Mediator Trainers”.
She has trained with international mediator colleagues (Lisa Parkinson, Ursula Caser), studied training skills and the basics of counseling in the cognitive behavioral approach (S. V. Kharitonov), and completed the “Methodologist Mastermind” course under the “Theory and Practice in a Group” program.
Since 2012 she has been practicing mediation and teaching at the Federal Institute of Mediation, ANO “Center for Mediation and Law” and other organizations. She has experience conducting commercial and family mediations and running mediation trainings for various target groups: lawyers, managers, judges and others.
She currently teaches the “Mediation. Basic Course” training at the Moscow State Law Academy.
1. You contact me via the form below.
2. I reply within 24 hours.
3. To make you an offer, I will need to know: how many people are involved in the conflict, whether everyone agrees to take part, whether you can contact those whose willingness you don’t know about, and the most general, brief description of the situation in three to five sentences.
4. I make you an offer; if it suits you, we agree on a date for the mediation.
5. I introduce my co-mediator if I am not going to work alone, and send you a questionnaire, which should be passed on to all parties together with my email address and a short message from me. In it, I ask each party to email me their completed questionnaire and guarantee the confidentiality of their data. *Filling in the questionnaire is not mandatory, but it saves a lot of time at the joint meeting.
6. Then we get together for a joint meeting
1. We gather, get acquainted and take our seats. The mediator (or mediators) has a flipchart to write down important points. Optional: the parties sign an agreement to mediate.
2. The mediator explains how the joint meeting works and suggests adopting the ground rules of the mediation session (confidentiality, voluntary participation, equality of the parties, independence and impartiality of the mediator, transparency of the procedure, cooperation and mutual respect between the parties and the mediator; you can read more about the principles of mediation here**)
3. If there are no objections or suggestions, the mediator proposes a draft agenda (a list of issues for discussion), drawn up on the basis of the questionnaires. The agenda is finalized together with the parties.
4. The mediator invites the parties to agree on which issue will be discussed first.
5. Discussion of the first issue begins.
6. Some time before the end of the session, the mediator suggests taking stock and summarizes where the process has got to.
7. If no agreements have been reached, the summary is recorded on the flipchart. The mediator and the parties agree on next steps and part ways.
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